Saturday, May 30, 2009

there's aplenty but still nothing

in life, we have to face tons of dilemmas. no one can escape from the fact that life is complicated as it is. sometimes we are faced with one too many choices or options that we just don't know how to make the right choice. and sometimes, we are faced with no choice at all, thus making us stuck in that particular situation, which is also a dilemma. a dilemma of trying to figure out how the heck do we get out of that situation. what do we do? where do we go next?
naaah i'm not talking about anything serious here. i'm just talking about a dilemma i am facing at this moment. i received a few wedding invitations from my friends. i guess school holidays mean weddings, weddings and more weddings. hey, don't get me wrong. i couldn't be more happier for the lovebirds who are tying the knot and i couldn't be more appreciative and grateful that i am invited to their weddings. they will definitely be in my list too, when the time comes.
the thing about weddings and the dilemma that it's causing me is the dilemma of what to wear? it is weird to know that you have so many bajus yet you still have nothing to wear. seriously. as it is, i am already pening thinking about what to wear tonight. i have no new bajus (pengsan la kalau setiap kali ada wedding, buat baju baru) but i don't know which baju to wear. trust me i have been recycling the bajus for God knows how many times. and then there's the shoes and bag to match it with. as much as women love to look good, sometimes it is frustrating, especially when you have nothing much to begin with.
another dilemma is about who to attend the wedding with. let me ask you this, when you receive an invitation which states your name alone, would you still attend the wedding? are you confident enough to go alone, walk into the hall/ballroom or even to the pengantin's house alone? all by yourself? if you know that you have other friends attending it, then that shouldn't be much of a problem because you can just plan to go together. you can even ask the hostess's courtesy to put you at the same table with your friends. but what if you barely know anyone there? or the people who's gonna be there are the people whom you haven't seen in ages that you could hardly recognize them? if it clearly state your name alone, you can't possibly bring a partner with you, can you? unless it is clearly written "Your Name & Partner" or the rsvp card requires you to state if you're coming alone or with a partner, right? speaking of which, i once received an invitation stating "Izyan & Kekasih". seriously, kekasih? LOL, no?
told ya life is complicated as it is. or is it not?


kruel74 said...

Tough decisions to make but you do have the advantage of finding a 'kekasih' when you go alone ;)

ur silent reader said...

i have a specific criteria that i've set up when agreeing to attend a wedding i.e.: tak jauh, kena ada geng nak pegi and the bride/groom must be a really close fren. if not i'll just ignore the invi..

and ur right about finding the teman for wedding.. mmg masalah dunia bg i. pasal baju tu, i tend to recycle je.. hehe.. pokai la kalau everytime wedding kena buat baju baru.. mengalahkan pengantin pulak.. hihi

izyan, i want ur opinion la.. if a guy is seen together attending a wedding with a girl, does it mean that they are 'involved'? tq..

Izyan Darling said...

right. haha.

silent reader,
tu la, kalau x attend the wedding, kesian pulak yang mengajak. tapi nak attend sorang, it's gonna take a whole lotta courage la. pasal soalan u tu, imho, tak semestinya they are involved. they could be just friends. but then the person yang mengajak must have seen something extra special about the other person that makes him/her invite her/him. that person could have easily invited someone else, right? but then even if they are not involved pun, people would automatically assume that they are. so to avoid rumors and/or speculations (unless they want to), i guess it's best to just go alone (provided that you have the courage) or go with a girlfriend (if you're a girl), or go with a sibling or better still, not go at all. ;)

Malicious Mind said...


amazing that we both faced the same probs when comes to functions/wedding- attire!

because of limited proper attire like baju kurungs/dress, i worry that someone will remember me wearing the same baju kurung in another function/wedding, malu tuuu.

Izyan Darling said...

malicious mind,
at least u only have one dilemma je to face. i have two! but let's put it this way, if people noticed that we have worn that baju before, that simply means that they are observant of us and asik dok memerhatikan kita. ;)